So, for a while now, we’ve been doing something we’ve called “marriage chats” on our Instagram stories. Our goal for this business will always be first & foremost to document love stories, encourage marriages & serve beyond all expectations. We quickly found God blessings these marriage chats & using them to accomplish our goal to encourage marriages. So, we thought we’d expand the idea for people who aren’t’ following us on instagram (which we encourage you to do here)!
The first topic we wanted to discuss is one of the most important chats we’ve ever had! It’s something that came out of Alec & I actually fighting one day over our yearly business meeting… real life, y’all!
What we realized was we were fighting against one another when we really should have been fighting together for one common goal. Two VERY different ways to fight with two VERY different outcomes and mindsets. So, we stepped aside from our meeting & decided to regroup the next day. The results of that second meeting were incredible!! Here’s what we learned:
Marriage isn’t meant to be your vs. your spouse. Honestly, it doesn’t matter who is right or who “won” an argument. Nope. That’s not the point of it all. Instead, it is about the two of you fighting for your marriage.
You may have two very different views which is 100% okay. Just don’t let the differences between you cause you to use your words or actions as a means to hurt the other person, belittle them, or try to make yourself feel justified in your actions. It’s all about the heart behind how & what you are ultimately fighting for!
No one sets out to fight against their marriage. Everyone wants to have a successful, joy-filled relationship but everyone is human. So, if you’ve found yourself fighting destructively against one another, it’s 100% okay. You are not alone! It takes time, hard work, and a heart/mind shift to make a change but it is totally doe-able. We are here to 100% support you & pray for you as you navigate marriage.
-Take a breath or ask your spouse if you can come back to this later, when you’re both ready
-Remember what you’re really fighting for
-Think through your motivation & emotions behind your stance
-Express why you think your way is right, being open to hearing your spouse’s side too
-Work with your spouse to come to a solution that works for your marriage
We’re rooting for you!
Katie & Alec
Wanting more inspiration for your wedding day & marriage? Head to our blog post just for couples here! We also highly recommend the Beating 50 Percent movement here!
